We're pregnant.... with TRIPLETS!

We're pregnant.... with TRIPLETS!

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Preparations

Once again Lindz is asleep and it is time for me to ramble.  As all of these changes with the triples on the way, i have begun to look at all of our decisions that we have made as a married couple.  I want to make sure that you all know that in no way do i believe that i have a horrible life, or that i believe nothing is going right.  God has a plan, and he has always provided for me and my family.  In saying that, i have realized how different i am from my family, and from lindz'.  I grew up in a Baptist church (Central Church) and then 20 years ago my family and i left to follow a great man Dr. Young in the stages of beginning a new church(Grace Evangelical Church).  Lindz grew up in the catholic faith, but also went to a private catholic school where she learned quite a bit about religion that most catholics i know don't know.  We both believe in the same God, which i believe is the most important, but the religions that we grew up in each have their different ways of worshiping. 

The discussions of which religion we planned on raising our children began long before we even started trying to have kids, actually it started in the first week we began dating. (We were kind of ahead of ourselves)  As the man of the household i know that i am supposed to lead my family, and for those of you that know me, i am a leader (I get it from my father).  But where i differ from my father is that i know it is possible to lead without standing in front.  I also know that i want my children(i can say children since there are 3 coming) to believe in God and have a firm foundation in faith.  I also know from teaching kids ages 3-18 that no matter what the parents shove in front of the children, and no matter how "Godly" the parents are, the kids will inevitably make their own choice.  So what Lindz and i have discussed is that we will do our best to be "Godly" role models for our children and provide them with differing views of the same God and in the end let them be the ones who choose which faith they will follow.  The one thing that i feel we are missing as a family in the "church" department is a close faith family.  Currently we do our best to attend church every Sunday, and recently we have been attending St. Phillip catholic church in somerville, but due to our schedules we aren't able to do any activities outside of the basic worship service.

Speaking of scheduling, let me put some of this in front of you guys in order for you to see all of what lindz and i do on a weekly basis.
Ryan - Monday through Friday 8am-5pm Memphis Pool Supply (Weekly Service Manager)
Ryan- Monday through Friday 7-9pm River City Twisters Competitive Tumbling Team Coach
Ryan- Saturday 1130-630pm  River City Gymnastics Birthday Party Director
Ryan- Sundays 1-5pm Private Lessons that i acquired from Lindz since she cant spot anymore
Ryan- Jan-July it is competition Season for my tumbling team and once a month we travel to compete

Lindz- Monday through Friday 8am-330pm Madonna Learning Center (Special Ed Teacher)
Lindz- Monday 330-430pm Beginner Dance Class at Madonna
Lindz- Tuesday 330-530pm Staff Meeting at Madonna
Lindz- Thursday 430-630pm Dance Classes at Ms. Pat's School of Dance
Lindz- Saturday's all day - Sewing Projects for Sweet Stitches By Lindsey
Lindz- Sunday 1-5pm  Private Lessons she coaches while i spot since they are her kids

I am sure that i missed something from our schedule, and i guess you can get the picture that we currently don't get a lot of time as a couple.  We do our best to make the most of the time that we actually get together.  If you can imagine, and it hasn't been put out to the world until now, but with three children popping out around the 1st week of august 2011, it is pretty much understood that lindz wont be able to teach school the next calendar year.  I am beginning to stress about that issue. 

Our finances are great right now, we have been blessed that all of the things we have needed, taking care of our precious puppies for example, have been taken care of.  I am not rich by any means, nor do i make tons of money at either of my jobs, but i do work as hard as i can to provide for our family the things that we need, and want.  I look back on some of the purchases that we made, and wish i could go back and change those to help plan for the future.  We basically were backed into a corner for the two vehicles that we currently own, since we needed vehicles to get to work or use for work at the time, and we had no money saved up to buy older or used vehicles, so we had to buy pretty new ones.  When the babies come, and lindz isn't bringing in any income, we have to be down to only one car, i will not be bringing in enough to make two fairly new car notes, plus all of our other bills.  We would really like to find a used 2006-2008 suburban with all the things we are looking for, and trade both of our vehicles in for just that one.  I have a company vehicle that i drive for work, and to and from work.  One car will suit us just fine.

Dreams and goals of mine have not changed, they have almost become more important to find a way to make them happen.  If you know me, then you know that the biggest goal in my life outside of my family is to have my own trampoline and tumbling facility.  It isn't cheap, and i wouldn't want to do it for cheap.  I want to have the safest, cleanest, and highest quality equipped facility around.  Not just to be able to say that, but to provide an environment that i can teach athletes safely, effectively, and with the right equipment to allow training to be fun and enjoyable.  Being a gym owner wouldn't immediately bring in tons of money, but with hard work and dedication that i have, it would end up being a solid source of income for my family.  About 3-4years ago i began to look at my life, you ever done the same?, to see what accomplishments i have in my life.  I have done some great things, guided some awesome people to great things, but then i look at myself and ask "is this it?"  I know i am good at the pool industry, but i don't want to own my own pool company, it isn't where my heart is.  And i don't want to be just a "pool guy" for the rest of my life.  I know that it is too late in our current situation for me to get back to school to get a degree.  So what is out there for me to accomplish, what sets me apart from everyone else?  I feel as though i have many strong talents, but where do i use them?  Where do i need to spend my time to make it the most effective and cost efficient?  How do i use my personal talents to enjoy work and provide for my family?

I turn 30 this summer, July 28th, and i thank God for every day that i have been alive on this earth.  But when is he going to take me?  When i go, will i be remembered?  What will i be remembered for?  Whose lives did i touch enough that they would be at my funeral, or have good things to say about me?  I don't want to be famous, i just want to make a difference.  A big difference.

Ok, my ramblings have begun, hope you enjoyed picking my brain for a little bit.  Maybe next time Lindz will have a more organized thought.  Goodnight- Ryan

Saturday, February 19, 2011

9 Weeks

So, I will be 9 weeks on Monday... and I definitely feel pregnant!  I'm not sure that having triplets has completely set in yet.. and I am not sure that it will until I have all three of my precious little angels in my arms!  My mind is constantly going.. I have been thinking a lot about random (but all important things) insurance, feedings, baby names (we have to pick out A LOT of names), NICU, C-section (which has been really freaking me out the past couple of days), nutrition, house layout, a BIG vehicle, bed rest (which I am most certain now is inevitable), how bad my back is going to hurt, finances once the babies get here (since I can't work!), etc. etc. etc...... I know everything will fall into place, but this stage of where to begin sucks!

I definitely have morning sickness every day... Within 30 minutes to an hour of being awake, I am usually running to the bathroom... I have decided that anything I eat is not going to stop this.. so I don't eat until I throw up so that I don't end up hating that food... Some days are really bad, and I now have Zofran for those days... BUT I am pondering what I would rather have... nausea and vomiting or headaches so bad that I can't see straight... it's a toss up!
I definitely have a baby bump now.. and Ryan is finally recognizing that it's a baby bump now (Maybe I should be calling it a babies bump since there isn't just one baby in there).. For the past week, Ryan has been certain that the bump on my stomach was fat and not babies, until the other night when I was getting ready for bed.. he stopped me and was like WOAH LINDZ!! YOU HAVE A BABY BUMP! ... Gotta love him!  

My life right now revolves around food.. I find myself starving every 3 hours or LESS!  When I get hungry or get a craving.. I MUST eat right then (or I will get sick UGH)!  I have a hard time planning ahead for meals, because I have no clue what I am going to want to eat or be able to stand the smell of until right when I get hungry... It's really quite frustrating!  I am hoping that this calms down soon so that I can plan HEALTHY meals!  

My body is changing so fast it's crazy.. I am wearing maternity clothes already!  I mean seriously who wears maternity clothes at 9 weeks!? I guess a mommy-to-be of triplets does!  I am so thankful though for my friends who just had babies that are letting me borrow maternity clothes!  They should at least get me through May, then I am going to be so big that I have no clue what I am going to wear!  They don't make many clothes for mom's expecting triplets... My body is already setting limits for myself.. I find myself moving much slower these days and not having the endurance to make it through what I used to consider a full day.. (which was teaching all day at MLC then coaching, teaching dance, etc.. and not getting home til late)... I am exhausted and find myself wanting to go to bed between 9 and 9:30 every night.. I am trying to make myself stay up..

I made the mistake of getting hooked to a tv show before I found out I was having triplets called Making Room for Multiples on TLC... Now when I watch it, I find myself putting myself in their shoes, and watching the C-section and the NICU stays.. and all the tubes and IVs.. There are benefits to watching though.. I get ideas of how to organize and plan.. for example some mom's of multiples color code EVERYTHING.. which helps a lot when you have people wanting to come into help you... I pray every day that everything is going to go smoothly, and they are going to be born healthy and strong and won't have to stay in the NICU that long maybe if we are lucky.. not at all... I am really trying not to worry, but this is one characteristic that I definitely inherited from my mom... I need to learn how to chill out and not expect so much perfection from myself..

Anyways, I hope all who read this have a great weekend!  Thank you so much for your prayers!  We really appreciate them!! 

Love to all,
Lindsey

Sunday, February 13, 2011

More reactions

So lindz wrote her part of the reactions,... while she sleeps it has become my turn.

So I'm going to back up just a little to fill everyone in on some details leading up to the pregnancy. As all of you who know us should know, both lindz and I work our rear ends off all the time, and it can really put stress on an individual. I believe that all of this stress might have been pushing on lindz and created an environment that made her body not regulated. After a few months of frustration lindz decided to talk to her doctor, and apparently clomid is the first "go-to" med to help regulate women looking to have children. After several cycles of ovulating, and then not ovulating, and all the stress of it, finally with a high dose of clomid lindz ovulated. So with us, on the last day of 4 weeks since her previous cycle, we took a pregnancy test. And she was pregnant!!! Way too early to tell anyone,... Right? Well I knew lindz couldn't hold this in, so we decided to tell our immediate family. They were all excited, as were we.

At that point we began to research more into this clomid medicine and found that there were quite a few ladies who had multiples while on this medicine. We began to start to wrap our heads around the fact that we may have twins. I really thought it was funny to joke that we were gonna have triplets,... Sure glad I didn't joke about quads or more.

I coach competitive trampoline and tumbling for a living, and lindz teaches at a private school for kids with special needs. With that said, you can tell that we are around kids all the time, and have tons of experience. Recently (since we got married) everyone told us that when we decided to have kids that they would change our lives. We agreed to that, but also claimed how we are truly prepared to have kids and it shouldn't be any problem. Well I guess we stuck our foot in our mouths, God decided that we could handle one new child no problem(or at least that is how I want to see it) and God decided he would challenge us with 3.

So,  at the doctors' office I sat across from where lindz was during the ultrasound,.. I could see the screen sooner and better than lindz. As soon as the tech adjusted the screen, I saw them,.. All three dark spots. I knew, but didn't say anything. The tech said well you aren't having one,... I began laughing, lindz said "twins?" ,.. The tech responded with, "nope, triplets".... That was the first person who knew besides us and she was so excited. By the time we left the ultrasound room, the tech had already told everyone in the entire office. When we walked out, everyone was all giggly and asked us if we were the ones having triplets. Apparently no one in that office had ever seen triplets before us. We found out that our doctor last saw triplets 15 years ago when she was with another office. It seems as if the Internet has made us all feel like the world is small, and that triplets are not at all uncommon. But even on the mess we were on, there is less than 1 percent chance of having triplets. It's so exciting.

Dr. McDonald came in and really seemed flustered. She seemed kind of giddy to me, but it was the first time I had ever met her. This is when we found out that she hadn't seem triplets in 15 years. It's interesting these days with technology. I know lindz isn't a doctor, and for sure doesn't have all the extensive knowledge like her doctor does, but on this one specific subject lindz really does have her head wrapped around most of the information. It really showed when lindz started asking questions and her doctor didn't really know how to answer. That's part of why I figured she was flustered with this new event in her life. Lindz almost was guiding her in what or how to answer the questions that she was asking. I had to go pee, and had to walk to the other end of the office, through the lobby and around the corner to find a male restroom. As I passed through the lobby, I noticed my former boss Cindy, and since the news was still a secret, I crossed my fingers that she didn't see me. We had to ask our nurse to make sure that Cindy was in a room so we could leave when we got done so the information of our pregnancy wouldn't get out too soon.

So I walked out to the car to warm it up, considering 1 inch of snow fell on it during our office visit. Once I picked lindz up we called her parents to figure out where to meet them for lunch. So then it was time to call our immediate family, those who we couldn't tell in person. Lindz's sister knew that we were at the office, and kept bugging her, so we called her first (well I say first cause there is a secret I can't reveal yet).  I decided that it wouldn't be fair if I didn't call my little sister next, but she didn't answer her phone.

Next was to call my mother. She works as an office manager at a church, so I called her to give her the news. When she answered, I began to tell her that we were at the office and everything was good,...and we were having triplets. She screamed all excited, repeating it to all of her co-workers. And the type of scream and repeating she did, was the kind where you could hear it in their voice that she was tearing up with excitement and joy.

My next call was to my father.  I told him, and he seemed really happy, and not that he isn't a happy guy,.. But I hardly ever hear him this joyful. It was nice to hear him laughing in excitement.

My dad's mother, Granny, was unavailable. So next we called my mother's parents, Pop and JoJo. Its hard to remember everyone's reaction, since everyone keeps thinking that we are pranking them. So pretty much each person immediately questions us to try to get a more direct announcement. Even one person, Jenni, wouldn't believe us until she saw the ultrasound pic. So I sent her one, but didn't take a good one and Lindz's name wasn't on the pic so she didn't believe us. I had to go take another pic, and message it to her, and finally she believed us.

It is very hard when you have as many close friends and family as Lindz and I do to be able to get in touch with everyone in a "fair" order, without forgetting anyone. I am doing my best to remember each story, and I will do my best to recall each of them. Thanks for reading.
Ryan McKinley

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Reactions

So we decided to share some of our favorite reactions to our BIG news!
My sister, Abby, was one of the first people we called after we left the doctors office. I told her that everything looked great and.. There's more than one... She instantly thought twins.. I told her no... TRIPLETS! Then, had to spend the next five minutes convincing her that i wasn't lying.. Which sounded a little like this "NU UH Lindsey you're lying!" "No, Abby, I'M not lying I'm really going to have THREE BABIES!" (which went back and forth and back and forth) haha!

When we arrived at my parents house after the appointment (we had to go deliver the news in person to my parents because they would have both had heart attacks if I called them and told them), my dad was not there yet because he was stuck in traffic because of the snow. So we sat down at the kitchen table to eat lunch. I asked mom if she wanted to see a picture that we got at the doctors appointment and handed her the ultrasound picture - which she looked at then looked at me and said is this THREE?!! She then sat completely speechless for a few moments. Then said y'all need to leave I have a lot of people to call! We waited for dad to get home.. Then when he arrived.. Mom said you need to sit down for this.. I handed him the picture and he looks at it and says how many is this... Then I point out the numbers.. Look dad see #1, #2, #3! He sat completely speechless.. In complete shock!

Ryan's favorite reaction was from one of his best friends Aaron,... After I convinced him that it was real, he said "your f**ked" I said why, and he said, "I'm a twin, don't you remember how awful Alex and I were to my mom when we were kids.". All I could think about was ,... Thanks Aaron for those great words of encouragement. Lol.

We have called a lot of people over the past couple of days, and each time we share our news we get one of a few different reactions..
1. OMG and lots of screaming
2. No you are LYING!
3. Complete silence
4. Utter disbelief

No matter what the initial reaction... They all have thought we were pranking them!

Thursday, February 10, 2011

We're pregnant.... with TRIPLETS!

So, I decided that we needed a blog to keep track of our growing family and the crazy life we live!  I am still in shock from the news we received yesterday.  We found out that we were pregnant after over a year of trying and 4 rounds of Clomid on January 17th, 2011.  We went for our first prenatal appointment yesterday at 7 and a half weeks and had been preparing ourselves for the possibility of twins... Still only expecting one baby!  We went in for an ultrasound first before seeing the doctor, and the tech came in and said so I see you have been on Clomid, and I am sure you are aware of the slight possibility of multiples.. We told her yes we knew that it was a slight possiblity.. She started the ultrasound and within seconds she proceeded with so you aren't having just one... which I replied back with "really we are having twins"... which she replies with "No... you are having triplets!" I laid there speechless looking at the screen and she points out the three sacs, takes a picture, then points out one baby, measures, finds the heartbeat, takes a picture, then moves to the next.. and then to the next!  Ryan sat there giggling as I sat there in shock with a few tears of joy and a MILLION thoughts running through my head.. I am going to have THREE BABIES!  I will need 3 of everything... neither one of our vehicles will work... How am I going to do this??.. I AM GOING TO HAVE THREE BABIES!
I think I said that at least 100 times yesterday! 
I had recently found a show on TLC called "Make Room for Multiples" and the first episode I watched was of a mom giving birth to triplets... I watched in complete awe and disbelief of how big a woman's body can get thinking that would never be me as the chances of that happening were less than ONE PERCENT being on Clomid.  Come to find out that that is going to be me..
I am going to have triplets!  I don't think it has completely set in... I have been doing lots of reading and researching and googling today.. My body is going to start changing really fast very soon.. My pants already don't button (they haven't in the past 2 weeks), but I am still wearing them.. just making sure I am wearing long loose tops so that no one will notice haha!  I am hoping that I am able to do this for a while... but probably not with the fact that I will look and feel 6-8 weeks further along than a woman pregnant with one baby! 
Lots of people have asked what can we do to help?  Right now we just need lots of prayers and support for a happy healthy pregnancy! 
Lots of Love,
The McKinleys